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A rehearsal dinner speech is a shorter, more relaxed version of a wedding toast - two to three minutes, usually given by parents or the couple themselves, thanking the small group gathered and setting an intimate tone before the bigger reception the next day. It can be more personal and unpolished than a formal wedding speech.
Who Typically Speaks at a Rehearsal Dinner?
The parents hosting the dinner usually speak first, often followed by the couple thanking their families and wedding party, and sometimes the best man or maid of honor offers a shorter preview toast. Because the guest list is smaller and closer, more people tend to speak informally than at the reception itself.
How Is a Rehearsal Dinner Speech Different From a Wedding Toast?
The room is smaller, more intimate, and mostly close family and the wedding party - so the speech can go deeper into personal or behind-the-scenes stories that wouldn't work in front of 150 wedding guests. It's also the natural place for parents to thank the people who helped plan the wedding and to welcome new in-laws before the more formal day ahead.
What Should a Rehearsal Dinner Speech Include?
A warm welcome and thank-you to the wedding party and both families for their help, a story about the lead-up to the wedding or the couple's relationship, and a toast to the next day. If you're a parent hosting, this is also the moment to publicly thank vendors, out-of-town guests, and anyone who's gone out of their way to be there.
How Long Should It Be?
Two to three minutes is typical - shorter than a full wedding toast, since several people are usually speaking and the dinner itself is the focus of the evening, not a speech program.
How Do You End a Rehearsal Dinner Speech?
Close by looking ahead to the wedding day itself: "Tomorrow, we get to watch these two do this in front of everyone - tonight, we just get to enjoy them as they are. To [names]." A toast that points forward to the wedding works better here than a full send-off, since the couple has one more big day still ahead.
Frequently Asked Questions
Do you need a full speech at the rehearsal dinner?
No - a short, warm toast of two to three minutes is standard. It's meant to be relaxed, not a formal program like the reception.
Who traditionally pays for and hosts the rehearsal dinner?
Traditionally the groom's family, though today it varies widely and is often split or hosted by whoever the couple chooses - the host role and the speaking role usually go together.
Can the couple give their own rehearsal dinner speech?
Yes, and it's increasingly common - many couples use the rehearsal dinner to thank their families and wedding party personally before the busier reception day.
Should a rehearsal dinner speech include inside jokes?
It's the perfect place for them - the room is smaller and closer, so references that wouldn't land with 150 wedding guests can work well here.
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